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Nov. 26th, 2005

you can skip this one but i wish you didn't..

i got an email from a boy or a man who informed me that he had been jerking off to some of my pics.

whoahh! well i guess it's always nice to be appreciated even if it's 'only' for my body. i'm not very prudish or easily shocked, i'm sure you already know that. and believe me, you're not seeing anything i don't want you to see. i only wonder, with so much porn on the internet, even in other livejournals, why come to tamar for masturbation purposes?

back to the email..
so the guy says i made him cum in a way that happens very rarely. apparently the contractions were so powerful that the white stuff squirted all the way to his chin.

i wouldn't know whether or not this guy was exaggerating but that's not important. i'm not the greatest expert on male orgasms these days, so i have to go back in time to draw from my own experience. if i remember correctly cum usually more or less dribbled out of a boy's cock. only a few times it was spurting out with such power that they (could have) hit something with it.

so why is there a difference? i don't think age has that much to do with it. does it depend on how long ago you masturbated or had sex? like i said, i'm not an expert..
i like to read your thoughts on this. does it matter how you cum? when you ejaculate quite strong, is there also more cum? things like that. & anything else you can come up with. talk to me..


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Nov. 26th, 2005 02:43 am (UTC)
I've found, at least for me, the distance of the "shot" depends primarily on how mentally excited I am for whatever has caused the orgasm. The length since the previous orgasm - and the resultant amount that's been "saved up" - also seems like it can influence the distance travelled, although not to the same degree for me. I've never been a "dribbler" - always a "squirter" - so I can't say as to why that happens to some guys. I will say, though, that it can be shot to places a guy would rather not have it land.

In regards to why one would masturbate to you (or others), as opposed to regular porn, I feel that it's because one could fantasize about said female as a being the "girl next door", a co-worker, casual aquaintence, etc, more easily than it would be to regular porn. LiveJournal posters just seem more "real" than what you see elsewhere, whether that be due to the non-professional photos, insight to the posters personal thoughts/life, or just the fact that it's not staged sex or nudity for the purpose of $$$.
Nov. 26th, 2005 03:57 am (UTC)
it depends on how long you hold back for... and the rhythm... if you stop the rhythm at the right moment compeletly a certain rush rises up all on its own (usually based on visual stimulation) and then the climax is much more intense and a lot more cum shoots out...

also if i am with the right person and am turned off enough, i can keep going after i ejaculate... this means much more cum taht oozes out with a lot more pulsation...
Nov. 26th, 2005 04:56 am (UTC)
age is a factor. when i was in my teens and twenties, i used to ejaculate a lot more and a lot further. nowadays, as an old man, i'm more of a 'dribbler' ;)

'refilling the tank' is also a factor. if i don't cum for three or four days, i certainly have a lot more, it's thicker and it goes further.

cockrings make a difference (for the better), as does anal/prostate stimulation.

last, but not at all least, don't forget that male orgasm and ejaculation are different things - you can have the world's most intense orgasm and not ejaculate at all (if you're a tantric master). or, if you're a horny teenager, you can jerk off just for the hell of it a couple of times a day, really not be particularly aroused, cum in about 30 seconds, and shoot yourself in the face ;)
Nov. 26th, 2005 04:57 am (UTC)
oh, also, diet and particularly hydration are big factors in how much cum you produce, and on its taste and consistency.
Nov. 26th, 2005 05:35 am (UTC)
I agree regarding the tachnique you use at the time of the orgasm influences the amount and strength of the ejaculate. Also the amount, which usually depends on how often you do it, seems to play a role. To hear that someone could cum up to his chin is not really surprising for me. I think in a good day I could cum up to 1-1.5 m away from the tip of my penis.

I disagree with a previous comment, though, in terms of age. I remember when I was a teenager I use to dribble a little and that was it. In return, I could do it two or three times in each session. I think during my twenties the amount and strength of it increased drastically. My explanation is the better development of orgasm muscles due to constant practice and also the use of a better technique, e.g. the stop and go mentioned before.
I don´t know how much this varies from person to person, however. It is interesting to hear other experiences, though.

Nov. 26th, 2005 07:26 am (UTC)
just like holding back a decent "pee", you can kegal-resist the liquid to a point that pressure builds and it comes out more forcefully. Since orgasms produce rythmic spasms of the muscles, it also has a lot to do with the timing of all related elements. I have a feeling this is why tantric sex and some other types try and "hold in" the ejaculate because when you do release, it feels more intense.
Nov. 26th, 2005 08:32 am (UTC)
Hey, this is a pretty fun question, but I'd of course be curious about the female side of this, what makes yours stronger? if you build up longer? or say, just try to get off quicker... or, what makes an orgasm stronger? is it more excited with a certain person? or event? or, would it be just the right motion or technique?

To answer your question (as im sure you're curious since you asked!)

When I have a stronger orgasm, it can certainly shoot further, and be more in volume.... does it matter how I cum? not so much how...... but how intense the mental part is, how much I am excited, or how much I'm turned on by my partner, would definitely make a BIG difference in how hard I would orgasm, how far I would shoot, and how much comes out...

I would say it doesnt necessarily mean if I cum very hard, I would cum more... but generally speaking the harder I orgasm the further it shoots... or the further I "sit up" in a forward lurch if I were masturbating laying in bed... my muscles would contract much harder... breathing almost hyper ventilating with a very strong orgasm... with a not so strong one it may just be my head lifting off the pillow for instance. With a really strong orgasm, I would literally almost situp with a few of the pulses from the orgasm, and moan audibly with those thrusts. Its not something you can keep inside or help, when the orgasm is really strong.

Sometimes if the orgasm takes longer to build, or if I come close to getting off a few times but then hold back, I would cum more in volume.. but not necessarily harder.

The strength of my orgasm depends on many things, mostly on how mentally stimulated I am, be it with that person, or with the thoughts I'm having alone. I get off much more for instance looking at an erotic photo of someone I know, or that I know made it especially for me to look at. I don't really get off so much on "porn" as a whole.. but when someone gets turned on making something for me, and they give me that as a gift, I LOVE it and definitely get turned on just knowing that they get turned on knowing I see them that way... and knowing that I would get off on looking at them also.

Does that make sense? It is hard to explain in an easy way... I hope its not too confusing, and you can in some way make out what I mean?

I could understand someone getting off on pics, but for me... I would only be able to enjoy it so much if I knew they made the pics with the intent of me to see them... and for me to get off on it. Then... yes, I could very much cum hard... looking at photos someone made just for me.
Nov. 26th, 2005 10:33 am (UTC)
you could never be accused of being vain, that's for sure. or of having too low a self esteem as far as that goes. you seem to have a very healthy attitude and personality; you're very personable. nothing is sexier than that, in my humble opinion. it goes way beyond body.

a man's shot depends on many things, but what's going on in his head and heart is a premier factor (everything else being equal), just like a gal.


re: older men (like over fifty); ibuprofen and other OTC pain meds block pleasure, or sensitivity or blood flow, as well as pain (but to a lesser much degree than pain), and diminish performance. i don't know if it's all men, but i'll vouch for these effects myself.


i appreciate this post, for the simple exchange. for the words.

Nov. 26th, 2005 11:24 am (UTC)
why come to mimulus for masturbation purposes?

Gee, I wonder how a raging boil of eroticism would make a man come to arousal.

does it matter how you cum?

Sometimes, but the condition and ability to cum matters more. That is, sometimes I am unable to cum because the erection was achieved in a prolonged unnatural way... or it has been some time since its seemed use, and it takes a while to get back into the flow of things-- then there is much cum. In optimal conditions, when the feel is right and the action is good, there is much spurting... either shot hard or cum overflows in large wads.

Optimal conditions require optimal fantasy in addition to body and mental condition... and you certainly qualify.
Nov. 26th, 2005 01:28 pm (UTC)
Can't speak on behalf of the male population, but generally the more excited you are, the further (and more) it goes - but it's also related to how long ago your most recent sexual experience was :)
Nov. 26th, 2005 10:30 pm (UTC)
I'm told a male dolphin underwater can ejaculate out to twelve feet. Surely there must be a film/cartoon skit somewhere where a dolphin actually knocks someone unconscious like that.
Dec. 9th, 2005 06:26 pm (UTC)
>>>I'm told a male dolphin underwater can ejaculate out to twelve feet. Surely there must be a film/cartoon skit somewhere where a dolphin actually knocks someone unconscious like that.

that is mad funny.

Nov. 27th, 2005 07:54 pm (UTC)
why come to tamar for masturbation purposes?

Why not? Everyone has fetishes. Everyone. Perhaps you trigger one of his? (Let's face it, non-European men can be turned on easier by European women because it's something they aren't exposed to everyday.

apparently the contractions were so powerful that the white stuff squirted all the way to his chin.

(I want to preface my response with this: I studied sexual psychology at university.) It's more complicated than that. I knew a guy that when he masterbated himself couldn't fill a teaspoon. If a girl masterbated him he could hit whatever was over his head. Having said that, there were certain things that allowed him to do that by himself. If he was extremely stimulated either physically or mentally he could do it alone. Also, if it'd been a while since he'd ejaculated and he'd been sexually stimulated frequently, he could do it. (Think here, alone at the beach, surrounded by beautiful women in bikinis, etc.)

if i remember correctly cum usually more or less dribbled out of a boy's cock. only a few times it was spurting out with such power that they (could have) hit something with it.

I would have to go with "that's not normal for most guys." I come up with a good reason for it to be "dribbling out" instead of squirting. I wouldn't say they should be going a long distance but less than a foot wouldn't be abnormal, imo.

so why is there a difference? i don't think age has that much to do with it. does it depend on how long ago you masturbated or had sex?

There can be a lot of reasons. Sometimes people are preoccupied during sex and enjoy it less. Sometimes they aren't into who they're with. It varies. How long since you've ejaculated usually affects volume and force. For example, a male cums during intercourse/fellatio/manually/etc and the cums again soon after, the second one is usually less powerful and less volumetrically.

does it matter how you cum? when you ejaculate quite strong, is there also more cum? things like that. & anything else you can come up with. talk to me..

Definitely. If I masterbate? I don't get a lot. If someone else masterbates me? I can get volumes. :) If I cum during oral or vaginal sex I'm told I cum hard. I'd have to go with, it depends. :)
Nov. 28th, 2005 04:22 am (UTC)
When I ejaculate strong it feels like there is more cum, I'm not sure if there is or not I've never actually measured. It definitnely flys further, faster, and harder though. Generally how much and how hard depends on how long it's been since the last time I've ejaculated. Sometimes it depends on how good it was, as in if I was able to hold off for a long while during the session it will shoot harder.

And as for why to masturbate to you there's many of reasons, one of which being that you are qutie attractive. There's more reasons but I don't elaborate unless you want me to.
Nov. 28th, 2005 06:15 pm (UTC)
i masturbate to your pics too. you're awesome! so sexy!

yes it does depend on how long since you last came. if it's been awhile (3 or 4 days or more) it will shoot across the desk or in your face or all across her chest : D

if you jerk off or fuck like 2 or 3 times in a day by the third time it will sort of dribble out like you describe and there will be less cum.
Nov. 30th, 2005 03:19 am (UTC)
am i the first girl to comment on this post? yes i think i am!

i'm not at all experienced with guys and the first time i gave a hand job was only two weeks ago.

i was sitting on the sofa with my boyfriend. with one hand he's holding my left hand. his other hand is stroking my upper leg. he insisted on kissing me (on the mouth) while he was cumming so i didn't get a good look. i got most of his cum on my hand and some on my dress. so i didn't see it come out, but somehow it didn't feel like he was shooting way up high.

i don't expect this will be of much help in your 'research' but i wanted to tell you anyway. ;)
Nov. 30th, 2005 11:16 am (UTC)
Am I the first senior citizen to comment? I think I am. Truth is how intense or when isn't important. What's important is what my partner experences. No partner? Well then what happens happens and it's no big deal.
Dec. 9th, 2005 06:24 pm (UTC)
interesting question!

the more interesting livejournal women are, for their onlookers, much more compelling than the "generic" porn you'd get at commercial sites.

LJ women look, emote and express a lot like the women that LJ women onlookers find very attractive in their own lives.

for example, I'm happily married, and when I'm alone for periods of time, the most attractive LJ women are the ones that at least in a partial aspect resemble her (rounded, sweet demeanor, et al) and so That Energy is thus channeled harmlessly, until My Partner is back off the monthly journey/ready for benevolent tussling/etc.

and when I was single, I enjoyed coming to (no pun intended, right?) this site to gaze upon and read works by women of the like that I hadn't had the fortune to spend my spare time with.

guys like to jerk off to images that they find appealing.

and yes, under certain circumstances of arousal/time of day/interest/etc., the result can splat on the chin. I will presume that this is more likely to occur with guys who are younger and/or in reasonably good cardiovascular condition. when I was younger, with a woman I was with (I was lying on my back), the second "wave" sailed clear over my shoulder and behind the bed.

hope that addresses your question to some extent. btw, presuming your permission, I'm adding you to my list, your combo of interesting entries and images is keen stuff.

Dec. 12th, 2005 07:22 am (UTC)
eerst even dit, tam. ik heb je ge-add. is dat ok?
de rest schrijf ik maar in het engels, dan hebben anderen hier misschien ook nog wat aan.

i am seventeen and my boyfriend is almost nineteen. when we have sex i usually let him cum inside me. we always use a condom and i have seen how much is in there after he pulls it off his penis. i think it looks like a lot, but he is my first real boyfriend so i have nothing to compare it with. :)
he once said he comes harder or stronger when he is with me than on his own.
and now he has this idea: he wants to jerk off with me there, but no touching.
boys are weird, aren't they? ;)
Jan. 5th, 2006 06:54 pm (UTC)
if you want a comparison...
I'm sure there are men who would be glad to get on a webcam with you... not that I.. uh .. know any of them or anything...
Dec. 18th, 2005 05:21 am (UTC)
* diggs into trousers for $.02... *

Well, pretty much a "pulser"... That would be between dribbler and shooter. But there have been ocassions of particular excitement where the results have been quite splattery. There does not seem to be an exact correlation between the intensity of the climax and wether I shoot off or pulse out... but if I have been ... (*ahem*)... busy. Will then tend to kind of oooze out, even if I cum hard.

However, an extended BJ or handjob is likely to get a more "squirty" orgasm, from Me at least.
Dec. 18th, 2005 05:28 am (UTC)
oh, its out of date now. but, following some photos you just posted elsewhere, i found this entry.

anyhow, to answer your query, im not completely sure what governs the way men cum. in my case, it doesnt usually just dribble out. this can make for exciting, but alternately awkward situations during sex as, in my case, it often kind of goes everywhere. if my cock is down by the waist area, it is not uncommon for it to reach as far as my partners neck or chin. though on occasion, it barely really comes out at all. i feel like it all relates to the intensity of orgasm, and the intensity of orgasm, obviously, has to do with a whole lot of things.

hows that for explicit talk from strangers?

i dont know why i just wrote this. but facts are facts.
Dec. 19th, 2005 04:09 am (UTC)
this sounds like this theory is in need for an experiment. I gladly offer my services for science of course.
Dec. 24th, 2005 09:11 am (UTC)
from my experience, three factors come in to play

the length of the sex play (the longer youre stimulated before orgasm, the more you come)

the intensity of arousal. the hotter i am, the more i come

the pressure placed on penis. i find that if im being stroked/stroking, or if im being sucked, or if im fucking, it will gretaly affect the quantity and force.

one night, i had an experience with a very dear woman to me, which resulted in her constant attention to my penis by her hand. let me explain that i happen to love - LOVE - hand jobs, and she, well, no one has yet to comepare to her.

after about three hours of her attention - on and off of course, i came so hard and so powerfully, i literally drenched a tree about four feet away (LONG story)

ive also been know to come on my face (accidentally) and shoot about 6 feet away. i find that im not as good at this as i used to be, but i think this is because of the quantity of my sexual experiences of late.

i think there may be other factors involved, such as length of time between orgasms and foods and liquids digested (perhaps), but i think i may be more of a unique case. i tend to be multiorgasmic, which also is pretty rare for males, i hear.

anyway, thats all i have to say about that. any other questions?
Dec. 26th, 2005 01:33 am (UTC)
I wanna see some of those pics.. maybe I could shoot a massive shot to you as well
Jan. 5th, 2006 06:52 pm (UTC)
for one... if you are going for a long time (like not cumming on purpose), it can go really far...

one time, I was so excited and I was having sex with this girl without a condom... I pulled out so that I wouldn't cum in her and I hit myself in the face!!!! I was on TOP! :)

I have (once or twice) shot cum up to as far as 6 feet before :)

so, dribbling out does happen too, but it can shoot far... just watch a coupla pornos and see ;)
Jan. 20th, 2006 10:24 pm (UTC)
sing me spanish techno
I've accidentally hit myself in the face before (lying down); I've even had some soar over my head *and* the arm of the couch I was lying on at the time. There are a variety of factors, most of them discussed above, but I have found that the longer it's been and the more aroused I am, the stronger I ejaculate.
Jul. 31st, 2006 07:02 pm (UTC)
it depends. exactly as you said, on how long since the last masturbation

sometimes, if the sex is really intense, and i'm holding it to extend the pleasure, i will squirt out quite far, like *maybe* to my chin kind of thing
Nov. 29th, 2006 02:36 am (UTC)
I've hit myself in the face before when masturbating. It is rare. Usually a stronger orgasm = harder pumping but not always. Also, the longer between when you start the stimulation and the orgasm, the more cum you end up with.
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